Imagine this scenario:

An opening is becoming available next month for a higher-level position in your organization. You start daydreaming about how it would feel to be offered the job " which would definitely be a promotion for you and is comfortably within your area of expertise. But then that little voice in your head says, Maybe Im not as qualified for the position as some of the other people around here. Perhaps my professional image isnt quite top-notch. Even though I work hard every day, I think my image is holding me back.

By Americas #1 Love and Marriage Experts.

Okay, we admit it " our favorite new love-story movie is Leap Year (2010). We simply love the movie and have now watched it three times! The movie speaks to many of the research findings we have found over the three decades we have researched successful and relationships on six of the worlds seven continents.

We are particularly enamored with the movie because it is filmed in Ireland and we recently spent a week there successfully married couples. Ireland is a beautiful country with wonderful people. We took a ton of photos, and many of our photos were of places featured in the movie.

One of the most common inquiries during a reading typically concerns matters of romance and partnerships. Naturally, people consult the for answers about love. One would expect that most people would want knowledge about their future love life: who and when that special somebody would be entering their life. Yet, many come to the for guidance about a current relationship. Typically, these are the relationships that have reached a stalemate. In these cases, the relationships have lost their sense of direction or purpose.

Negativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the . The question often asked by couples is How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesnt take hold of our relationship?

All couples at times get themselves on a negative cycle that needs an immediate injection of positive communication. Couples at times forget to focus on the positive elements of their relationship and each other. They try small intermittent actions that do not provide a foundation for consistently positive interactions.

One source of immeasurable misery in relationships is thinking that the past will repeat itself. Sorry People have changed, life is different, and nothing is the same today as it was yesterday.

WARNING! Listen to The Drunk Monkey in your head. Mine says Matthew Ferry, you are insane! There are many things the same today as yesterday you noodle head!

Look again. Everything is slowly changing, eroding, degrading, evolving, emerging and transforming. Especially people.

Yet The Drunk Monkey (your mental chatter) takes a snap shot of today and then carries it forward into tomorrow. Really bad idea. Especially with people.

In working with clients as a family therapist, creativity coach and meaning coach I began to see the following recurring pattern: clients would quickly lose interest in activities, projects, relationships and careers that they had started with great enthusiasm. They would even lose interest in solving the pressing problems that had brought them to me. What was going on? Why were we as a species burdened by this debilitating penchant for starting things with great energy and and allowing the fire to die out in no time?

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Ok guys, now that you're in an awesome relationship things begin to hit a leveling out point. This is where many couples hit snags in their relationship and can pull partners apart. We will delve into three ways to push past this point and to keep your relationship alive and thriving.

One big trap that many guys fall into is thinking that we have to be the "Nice Guy" all the time. Now don't get me wrong. There is nothing at all wrong with being a considerate male, but you should have limits. Bending over backwards to assure that your partner is happy is not the way to keep things exciting. What can happen is the woman will start to realize that you are predictable in the way that whatever she wants, you'll get for her.

My single friends are not delighted that it is, once again, Valentine's Day. Reassuring them that being single on Valentines Day can be just as much fun (and sometimes better) as being part of a long-standing couple does not go down well.

I happen to believe that Valentines Day is perfectly peachy if you are in the first six months of a relationship. Or if you are frisking around breaking hearts and having yours broken. But for longtime couples, 14 February tends to elicit responses ranging from 'ho hum' and 'very nice, thank you, darling' to a hissing, snarling diatribe against the massive con trick of commercialism that is Valentine's Day.

While it's very nice to receive a gift of flowers or perfume from someone with whom you have been sharing toothpaste and a lavatory for years, it does not pack the same emotional punch as a card or rose from a surprising source, a fan you didn't know you had. An expensive, lacy piece of something from the lingerie family (a gift for him masquerading as 'what you've always wanted') is lovely when you're in the early days of a love affair but, years later, when what you really want is a YSL Roady (a gift for you), it's not so thrilling. Trust me.

I think the answer to a happy Valentine's Day is all in the thrill, myself. (I would be beyond thrilled. Guru, with a Roady. I am just saying…). So if I were single now I would take a chance. I'd probably send the object of my affections a batch of heart-shaped cookies, even though my mother always said not to, under any circumstances. What's the worst that could happen? You discover he's not that interested. Is that terrible? At least you would realize that you were up a dead end, and instantly stop wasting your time and move on.

Men come and go but time is finite. You do not have masses of it to waste on one who 'isn't that into you'. You're not sad; that's sad.

What else to do on and around 14 February? I'd go out dancing with my other single girlfriends. I'd stay home and watch three episodes of The Wire, back to back. I'd eat too many chocolates in bed. And sleep diagonally across the bed if I felt like it. All the good stuff you can't do when you're in a relationship.

The Guru has not yet given me a YSL Roady but he has passed on the odd nugget of wisdom. And one of his all-time greats is this: you do not have to make yourself miserable by wishing for what you haven't got. Learn to value what you have instead.

So this February, single girls, that gem is my Valentine to you all: love what you've got. Then go looking for love. See you on the dance floor.

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For many of us trust is not necessarily an easy thing. It can be a big word – loaded with disappointments and few happy memories. We hesitate when we are faced with the desire or need to trust someone and are not comfortable when they trust us. We fear what may happen by making ourselves that vulnerable and then we worry and obsess about it. Many of us feel trust is impossible and in fact we have taken a vow never to trust certain relationships and situations ever again. We cant imagine allowing that kind of pain to hurt us in the future. Trust takes a beating during the growing years of childhood to adulthood. We find that we believe in people and things only to be disappointed when they dont work out. We take it personally as though it meant something undesirable about ourselves. We feel degrees of being crushed, abandoned and misused as we perceive that our hopes have been squandered by another. We feel we cant trust ourselves because of what happens when we do. Much is written these days about living authentically by believing in and trusting ourselves. There are many books, seminars and programs built around this theme. Yet, most of these how to programs miss the mark in one very important category: none of them seriously address the importance of letting go of the past. In order to really learn to trust ourselves it is necessary that we mentally and emotionally see ourselves as starting over by deliberately releasing our interpretations of events from our past. One way of releasing these flawed interpretations is to invent new ones. When we are able to view ourselves using the wisdom we have gained from accepting our past, we can develop trust in our own choices and have faith in the future. There are stories every day of people who do just that. They hit bottom, entirely let go of the past, and then reinvent themselves. Many of them now write and speak about their experience to people all over the world. The problem is – they had to crash and burn to get the transformation they now own. So what about everyone else – mainly those of us who dont see an apocalypse in our immediate future? What are we to do to get our lives to be a manifestation of our true desires and a reflection of what we are here to contribute in this lifetime? Do we need to end up in the gutter too as our starting point? I believe that average people like you and I can make a new start in life by releasing our own invalid interpretations of the past. We can make a new design for our present and future. You CAN chart a new future by letting go of the past and trusting in your ability to build a future. Its about trusting your higher consciousness to lead the way. It is not a step-by-step process, but rather a truth-by-truth process you build for yourself one discovery at a time. You cant lose when you trust your own ability to know what is true and best for you. We have all the answers inside just waiting for us to discover them. Stop and ask yourself the following questions: 1) What could I have if I learned to trust myself? 2) Am I willing to learn to do that – and have that? 3) Can I be relied upon to give myself to this project? These questions are to help you get clear so you can better manifest your dream and a life you can be proud of. They are designed to help you visualize the good that can come from exploring self trust. Think of what has been missing from your life. What would be possible if you were able to bring that back into your life or bring it into your life for the first time? That is the heart of this concept of self trust. Opening the internal trunk where we have deposited and locked away our dreams and joys allows us to experience them again and the happiness they provide. Allowing ourselves to trust means that no matter what happens in our lives, we believe in our ability to overcome it. Allowing ourselves to trust also means if we stay on course and follow our dream, we will arrive at the destination meant for us no matter how circuitous the path. Allowing ourselves to trust begins with understanding where we are at the present moment and finding the grace and courage within ourselves to move forward into the unknown. Trusting ourselves wholly and fully begins the journey to our own radical fulfillment. When I was a 4 year old in kindergarten, I had a bad experience with my first teacher. I was pretty shy and unsure of myself and I would freeze anytime my name was called. Fearing I would be singled out by the teacher to do something I couldnt do or answer a question I couldnt answer, I would panic and do nothing. This would infuriate the teacher who would yell at me in front of my classmates. She would take me to the back room while the other children were on the playground and hit me with a ruler each time I answered one of her questions wrong. Clearly this was a very poor way to begin my school career and a good start in distrusting teachers and other adults. It happens that my first grade teacher was the perfect teacher for me to have next. Sensing I needed more help, she took me under her wing and gave me the confidence and support I needed to repair the old wounds. I dont remember my kindergarten teachers name but I sure remember her and what she looked like. She was my angel sent from heaven and played a major role in my ability to regain my trust in adults. Thankfully, trust is something that is elastic. It can be built up as well as knocked down. Research has revealed that even one person to trust and lean on in life is enough for successful intimacy. Equally important is the fact that having no one to trust can halt normal healthy human development. Trusting ourselves is the first step toward trusting others. Trusting ourselves means reinterpreting our past experiences " understanding them to be what we most needed at the time – and that our behavior and decisions were what they should have been at that stage in our growth and development. It isnt true we cannot change our lives. Just look around you at all the people who have because they believed and trusted that they could. Many of them report they would not trade anything for the hardships and struggles they endured to become more authentically themselves. I invite you to think about, and perhaps embrace, this idea of trusting yourself. Leave the past on the ground in front of you and walk away from it. Choose to move on in the direction of the life you desire and deserve, free of judgment, blame and fear. Remember that it is important to get support during this critical time in your growth and development in order to stay focused and not fall off track or quit and give up. I wish you the very best! Looking ahead: I am planning to continue this theme in future articles. If this article has resonated and interested you, stay connected by visiting www.ADDInsights.com Learn along with me how we all can build a more authentic future based on trust and of who we truly are underneath our masks, armor, shields and cloaks.